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The past few days had been a lot. I met many of my relatives. It was nice. All of them were father's relatives. They are very well educated. It was both emotional and fullfilling. I connected with so many different people. The fact that I am from New York definitely made a big difference. Also I realized people at the wedding were there with different intentions. The family and relatives were mostly there out of love and the bond. Few others like Chandira were there just to maintain the connections so that he can benefit. I gifted malli 500. It felt nice. Steve and I helped a lot and were part of the family. Steve didn't like the fact that Isuru is a die hard liberal. Steve is a huge conservative. These are all politics. I will need to mediocre them at some point. I don't want them to fight at any point. I love both mallis. They are very kind and helpful. It feels nice to have a family away from home. In fact I didn't really have relatives back home. Most of them were pretty isolate. Here they are united. I have to prep for my meeting ina bit. We are plannign for a family! Finally! I feel so great. Steve and I had unprotected sex for the first time in 5 years. I was so anxious because having kids is a big responsibility. At the same time I have faith that everything will be fine because I am also educated. Ideal situation is depending on Steve but I have money so it should be fine. I think first of all Steve shoudl get a DNA test done. He has been postponing this for a long time. I have been telling this to him since 2018. I think he is scared of discovering that he is probably not the father to his previous 2 kids. In fact I never thought he is their father due to the very little resembalnce and attachment. I could be wrong. I never really saw a genuine father daughter bonding, sadly. He is a good dad. None of the kids have any of his characteristics like the introvertedness, softness, and laidback nature. They don't even look like him. Either way, I am staying focused on my goals. I need to get the CISSP done this year so that I can go for a salary hike before the baby is born. Hopefully I will get money from AvePoint. If not, have to think of both ways. What if I lose scenario and need to seek independent legal advice from another party just in case. I think overall we are at a good point in life. Met with Steve's parents. Father is extremely selfish and mother is controlling and not empathetic. No wonder he hated growing up in the house. Father sucks the most. What an asshole. A very selfish fucking asshole. Two sons drove 5 hours to see him and won't give a shit. He didn't even ask what they need or how he can help. What a sick old fuck. I hate him. He doesn't know that he needs to be there for his sons. What the fuck. I will never visit that asshole again. Kind of like what I did to my sick fucking shitty aunty back home. She was a bitch and I discarded her. I will do that to every sick fucking relative no matter what. Need to learn to do it to friends too Threapy had been very helpful honestly. THe therapist helped me with life norms and unlearn relearn some behaviors. We are flying back to NYC. Can't wait. We are building our own little life.